You didn't lose yourself all at once. It happened in small goodbyes: the opinion you swallowed, the rest you didn't take, the yes you meant as no. These 7 rituals bring you back the same way, one small moment at a time.
“I used to think people stopped scrolling for hacks, tips, and trends. Turns out... people stop when they feel something.”
None of those felt like a big deal.
That's the problem.
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You left in small ones.
One a day is 365 a year.
I call them The Small Goodbyes.
365 small goodbyes. One year.
“You didn't lose yourself all at once, so you won't come back all at once.”
As if it's a switch you can flick. It tells you where to end up and gives you no steps to get there. So it becomes one more thing you're failing at.
One big weekend can't undo a year of small goodbyes. By Wednesday, the messages are back.
They feel true for a minute. Then 7am comes, and “can you just...?”
“I've got it.” You've said it for years. It's how you got here.
Each one is a big fix for a problem made of small moments.
A Come-Back Ritual is small on purpose.
About twenty minutes. One short video, one honest question to write on, one small thing to practise tomorrow.
Each ritual answers one kind of small goodbye:
You don't have to feel full of self-love before you start.
You don't have to believe a word of it on day one.
You just do the small thing. The feeling comes after.
This is how I teach Choosing Yourself Again.
7 small ways back.
Before you decide anything, answer one question.
Saved on this device only. Never sent anywhere.
That's it. You don't have to fix it. Noticing is the first way back. The rituals show you what to do next.
After the hardest loss of my life, I struggled to recognise myself.
I was a mum. A wife. A carer for my own mum. Long work days, late evenings, and very little space left for me.
I know the strong woman well. The one everyone depends on, who carries it all and never asks.
I wanted my confidence, independence and ambition back. I also needed somewhere to begin.
My starting point was my own experience of putting myself last.
So I made the practical tools I wished I'd had.
Mon Soin Desoi
Plus a short welcome video and a one-page Come-Back Card with all 7 practices.
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It's not for you if you're in crisis right now. Please reach out to someone you trust, your GP, or Samaritans on 116 123 (UK, free, any time).
You close the laptop.
The washing can wait until tomorrow. So can the missed calls.
You spend twenty minutes on something you've wanted to do for yourself.
No guilt. No asking anyone's permission.
Just you, back.
9:20. Still yours.
Most self-care is one big fix: a bath, a weekend, a quote. This answers the small moments where you actually leave yourself, one at a time.
Each ritual takes about twenty minutes. Some of the practices take less than one.
No. That's the point. You do the small thing first. The feeling follows.
No. It's personal development. If something brings up more than you want to hold alone, please talk to someone you trust or a qualified professional.
No. Your journal is yours. Nothing is shared.
Do the first 3 rituals. If it doesn't feel made for you, email me within 30 days and I'll refund every penny.
Another year of small goodbyes. Kind to everyone. Last on your own list.
Or 7 small ways back, starting tonight.
The Choosing Yourself Again Journey · 7 Come-Back Rituals · £14.95 · 30-day guarantee
With love,Mon Soin Desoi
P.S. You didn't lose yourself all at once, so you won't come back all at once. Start with one small ritual tonight.
P.P.S. Do the first 3 rituals. If it isn't for you, email me within 30 days for every penny back.
The Choosing Yourself Again Journey